Have fun, make connections, and put an extra notch on your career-building ladder.

Confidently socialize with your boss and spouse.

Do you think your career might benefit from a little getting-to-know-you time spent with the boss and his wife?

Perhaps you like the idea, but worry about doing or saying the wrong thing, or worse, not having anything to say at all?

If so, let me provide some pointers guaranteed to build your confidence, and make for an enjoyable experience.

• Know you are a valuable member of the team-or you wouldn't be working there.

• Recognize that the boss, and his wife, are only human beings with talents, weaknesses and interests just like anyone else.

  Spark up a conversation just as you would with anyone else at the event.

  Do you share any of his/her interests?

• Flattery will get you everywhere…but only if it's genuine: Has he or she done anything recently that you especially admire?

  Is his wife looking especially radiant this evening?

• Understand that oftentimes, opportunities to socialize with higher-ups provide an opportunity for management to reconnect with people in the organization: Have an especially innovative idea? Be sure to share it from a positive perspective.

• Despite her relentless smile, recognize that his wife may be feeling somewhat like a 3rd wheel, or at the very least, out of her element: Acknowledge her presence, and make every effort to be inclusive in your conversation.

• Feeling some heat? Remove the spotlight from yourself by inquiring about them. Most people enjoy talking about themselves anyway.

• End your conversation with a pleasant remark or gesture: Thank them for the exchange and let them know you enjoyed the conversation.

Above all, just be yourself because you're smart, good-looking and by George, people like you!

And who knows…you just might get invited for dinner!