A collection of words of wisdom for having fun on the big day event.

Here's the scoop.

Weddings are great, yes.

Congratulations, you're playing a big role in it!

But, fact is, they can be stressful.

All that planning-sometimes over the course of one whole year-building up to one whole day.

So take it from someone who's been there and done it-aim to just enjoy each and every single fraction of a moment, because before you know it, it's Donna Summer's "Last Dance" and all that confetti is already getting swept up by a late night crew that just wants to go home.

So, here are some words of wisdom for each important member of this special day.

Brides/Groom

The hardest part is already over-you found the one for you!

The planning is done. Now, all you need to do is look beautiful/handsome, look into your sweetheart's eyes and say "I do."

Then it's "just have fun!"

• What do I often hear brides and grooms say they most regret?
• Not dancing enough
• Being so worried about saying hello to each person there that they don't end up enjoying themselves
• Forgetting to eat because they're so busy schmoozing
• Not seeing their Bride/groom all night, with the exception of that "bump-into-one-another-along-the-way-when-everyone-suddenly-starts-that-annoying-tinkling-of-their-glasses-so-that-you-can-kiss-one-another-in-front-of-everyone" repeated opportunity

So, if you remember nothing else (besides to say "I do"), remember this:

This day is all about you both.

So, enjoy one another, and get lots of camera coverage so that you will be able to reflect on this day for the rest of your lives together!

Best Men/Bridesmaids

Now, I know that you have spent a lot of time and energy with a stressed bride/groom.

You've probably spent a lot of money too for the outfit and sundry demands from the couple to be.

But some tips for you:

• Be diligent about rehearsal, so the spotlight won't be distracting and find you going left when you should have gone right
• Clarify up front what's expected of you on that day, and commit to delivering it
• Collaborate with friends to prepare a fun praise-of-a-speech to honor the couple
• Then, do yourselves a favor and just have fun on the day of the big event.

It's really that simple!

Mothers/Fathers

Your babies are now adults.

And they are getting married!

I asked some moms and dads for their advice and they said this:

• Mom:

  - Wear waterproof mascara whatever you do
  - Don't worry about what the other mom is wearing
  - And, prepare to ignore the inappropriate attire some guests might have on

• Dad:

  Just one thing--don't even think about how much money this is costing-you can worry about that later

• Mom and Dad:

  - Prepare and deliver a few wonderful words to show your darlings how much you love them
  - Chat and meet friends
  - and then HAVE FUN!

On Making Speeches

For formal tips and techniques on how to make a speech, check out the Public Speaking article in Life Coaching Studio.

Weddings sometimes seem to largely consist of a chain of impromptu speeches.

So, what do you do if you think you just might be called on to make a speech?

Run!

I'm kidding.

Pretend you're Barbara Walters and dig up the embarrassing, fun stories.

Interview as many people as you can-parents are usually quite forthcoming with these. Then, string them all together and then make your debut.

Just remember to throw in some kind words about the bride and groom, tell them how much you love them and then hand the mic back.