In order to feel confident you need to have some certainty in your life that what you are doing is contributing to an end result.

We are all goal seeking animals and the worst thing you can do is to mistake activity for accomplishment because then you wonder why you are not achieving anything in life and when you feel like that your confidence takes a battering.

Have you got any goals mapped out for each area of your life?

If not, then read on and complete this exercise.

Goal Creation Exercise:

With regards to the following areas in your life:

• Career
• Relationships
• Fun
• Achievements
• Money
• Possessions
  

Take 6 pieces of paper for the 6 areas above and under each heading brainstorm for 3 minutes and write down all of the things you would like to have, achieve and do in each area.

Don't worry about how big the goals seem, just get them down and don't think too much about them - just keep writing!

After you have completed the first part of the exercise you should have 6 pieces of paper full of everything that you would like to achieve for each area.

Next, I'd like you to write down timescales next to each of when you would like to realistically achieve them by.

The timescale categories are:

• Less than 1 year
• 1 - 3 years
• 3 years plus

So, let's recap where we are!

You should have got 6 lists of things that you want to achieve in the 6 areas of your life mentioned above and you have categorised each into when you would like to achieve them by.

Next, I'd like you to take your LESS THAN 1 YEAR goals for each area and select the top 2 for each one.

So now you have got 12 goals that you can achieve within 1 year.

Before we start to write down an action plan of how to achieve each goal I'd like you write down the compelling reasons why achieving each goal is an absolute must for you.

Unless you have compelling reasons why you MUST make these goals happen then you will not have the motivation to achieve them.

Having goals that are "SHOULDS" will not get you out of bed each day and keep you up late!

You've got to turn your "I SHOULD DO THIS" to "I MUST DO THIS"

So, below write out what the goal is and why you MUST achieve it.

What pleasure will it give you?

What will you be able to do?

What will you miss out on if you don't complete it?

Why is it so important to you?

Why is this a MUST rather then a SHOULD?

To recap then!

• Brainstorm what you want in each area of your life
• Put timescales next to each
• Select your less than 1 year goals
• Pick 2 goals from each of these.
• Write down the compelling reasons why achieving each is a must in less than one year
• Write an action plan of how you are going to achieve each.
• Regularly revisit your goals to make sure you are on track
• If you are off track, just modify and change your approach
• Have fun!
  

Life Coach