Control your thoughts, control your confidence

Confidence From Ear To Ear!

What goes on in-between those ears of yours is the difference between success and failure.

After all, success and confidence is all about feelings.

Don't believe me?

Do you think it's all about having money and achieving things?

Well let me ask you this question:

What would having all the money in the world mean to you?

Yes, that's right, it gives you a feeling of happiness, of joy, a carefree attitude - all these are feelings.

Looking at the stacks of dollar bills in a vault itself doesn't do anything; it's the feelings you associate to it that determines the quality of your life.

The way you feel is your responsibility.

How come two people can look at the same situation and come out with two different views and answers?

How come someone can say something nasty to one person and they get upset? Say it to someone else and they have a positive reaction?

It is all down to your thoughts.

It is down to the questions that you ask yourself when faced with a situation or comment.

Throughout this module, we will look at why a positive mental attitude is so vital to confidence.

The most important factor that will determine your confidence is what goes on in your mind.

Each person is where he is and what he is because of his own mental attitude towards himself and others, and so are you.

Your mental attitude can travel in two directions:

It can lead you up the path of success or to the road of failure - the choice is entirely yours.

Seeing as you are completing this topic I can safely assume which one you would prefer.

No matter what you are doing in life it is your attitude before, throughout and after that activity that will determine your success.

Picture a footballer taking a penalty.

What do you think is going through his mind - A goal?

That the goalkeeper will save it? Or that the ball will end up in row Z of the stand?

What do you think when you are taking a penalty? GOAL? Or MISS?

Picture a learner driver who has just failed her driving test.

What is she thinking?

Confident that she will pass the next time?

Or that she will not even bother and give up?

Or maybe she will have to be content with public transport?

There is a simple rule with regards to your thinking in everything that you do:

Think Positively and you will end up with positive results.

Think Negatively and you will end up with negative results

Imagine that you have got a job interview -

There you are, sitting in the reception of the organisation waiting to be called in.

Now, what is going through your mind as you sit there in that chair?

The negative minded person is probably thinking along the lines of - what an earth am I doing here? I haven't got a chance of getting this job, I haven't got the right experience or qualifications, I'm probably going to fluff my words, what if I make a complete fool of myself?

The positive minded person is feeling confident and is thinking along the lines of - Well, I've got this far so I must be really good, I've got a great chance of getting this position, the job is as good as mine, I have got the experience and qualifications and I am going to say all of the right things, lets go for it!

The positive minded person is going through all of the possible questions that he or she may get asked during the interview and is really looking forward to it.

The negative minded person is doubting him/herself and is dreading it

Let me ask you this question -

Which person do you think stands more of a chance of getting the job?

Or let's put it this way -

If you were their boss which one would you like to have working for you?

You see, a positive mental attitude gives your entire personality a drawing power that attracts the circumstances, the things and the people that you think about the most.

A positive mind attracts opportunities for success and a negative mind repels them.

And a negative minded person doesn't even take advantage of them when they do come along because they are too busy focussing on how they are going to fail.

We now know that the successful people in life are positive people.

The question that you must now ask yourself is - are you one of those people?

If you were to take a penalty what would be going through your mind?

Positive thoughts or negative ones?

Faced with such situations you need to ask yourself certain questions and react in a certain way to guarantee success

Life Coach