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PART 6 How to give feedback |
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PART 6 How to give feedback Welcome to the final part of the communications course, I hope you have enjoyed it. This week is all about how to give and receive feedback! Giving and receiving feedback
One of the most difficult things to do in communicating is giving feedback. The problem with giving feedback is that you must do it in such a way that it helpful so that the person can use it to either make improvements or keep up the good work. Feedback is essential for learning and continuous improvement and can help to motivate depending on how it is conveyed. A lot of people find it difficult to give corrective feedback. However, it is possible to learn techniques for effectively offering both praise and correction. Giving both types of feedback is an integral part of the coaching process that provides your staff members with support and direction, and ultimately results in increased participation. By providing feedback, you let him or her know what you think about a particular performance.
Praise is most effective when given as soon as possible after the behaviour has occurred. Immediate feedback will help to reinforce a correct behaviour and make it more likely to happen again. When an incorrect behaviour is not corrected with feedback, the staff member may incorporate it into his or her customer of colleague interactions unknowingly. It is highly desirable, when possible, to give corrective feedback before the situation occurs again. 2. Ask for self assessment Beginning by asking the person for self-assessment involves them in the feedback process. It helps to promote an open atmosphere and dialogue between the person doing the coaching and the person being coached. Often the person is well aware of his or her won strengths and weaknesses. It is more effective to allow the person to voice opinions before providing your own assessment of performance. Through self-assessment, the person can gradually assume more responsibility for his or her own abilities and performance. 3. Focus on specifics When you focus on a specific correct or incorrect behaviour, you remove the feedback from the sphere of personality differences and the other person will be more willing and able to change. For example, when providing corrective feedback: Do: “When you were talking to customer xyz, I noticed that you forgot to use her name” Don’t: “You are not building rapport with the customer” When providing praise: Do: “When you spoke to customer xyz, I noticed that you used really good open and closed questioning techniques” Don’t: “You communicated well there” 4. Limit feedback to a few important points Good coaches and communicators identify one or two critical areas and help the person address them one at a time. It is too hard to examine and try to change many aspects of behaviour at one time. Restrict your feedback to one or two important points so that you do not overwhelm the other person with too many things to consider. 5. Provide more praise than corrective feedback Positive reinforcement is one of the strongest factors in bringing about change. Unfortunately a lot of people always focus on the negative. When you give corrective feedback, remember to point out corrective behaviours first. This is as important as pointing out mistakes and areas that need improvement. And always end the conversation on a positive. 6. Give praise for expected performance People deserve to be praised for doing their job to the expected level. Too many people take the expected level for granted however. Remember that praising anyone who meets established standards is as important as praising the exceptional performer. Praise is a strong motivator, and enough praise may be what it takes to turn an average employee into an exceptional one. 7. Develop Action Plans Work together to identify the desired performance or result and how it can be achieved. Decide when the steps will be accomplished.
Now that we have highlighted the main principles of giving feedback, lets look at some useful techniques we can use in feedback sessions.
Use open-ended questions to allow and encourage the person to give more detail and elaborate. Use words like: What? Avoid closed questions when you are trying to get more information from someone. Avoid words like: Do
you? Also be careful when you use the word “Why”. The person may think that you are blaming them or being critical if you use it. They may think that you disagree with them if you use this word. Reflecting Back This is about putting what the other person has said into your own words and reflecting it back. This is called paraphrasing and by doing this it shows that you are listening and more importantly that you are listening and understanding! For example: Individual – “I always seem to get the rough end of the stick - no-one listens to me at all……..” You – “You seem concerned that no-one listens to you and that you seem to be getting a dumb deal”
Encourage the person to take their time. Always give the other person time to think through their reply to a challenging answer. Do not feel uncomfortable about silences but do be wary that silence can make people feel very uncomfortable. Maintain eye contact and demonstrate an interest.
Summarise the output of the meeting and action plan to ensure that you have heard correctly and understood from his/her perspective. Restate the key aspects of the feedback discussion Conclude the discussion and focus on planning for the future. Example:
“The three major issues you raised were……” Being Sensitive Acting sensitive to the needs of the person is important as they may reject the feedback initially. Give the person space to think in his/her time. This may help the person to absorb the feedback
Example: “Can you think of an action that would help build on your skills in this area?” Offer ideas without forcing your personal opinion. “One
thing you might do is….”
Help the person to integrate the feedback into their own experience and view of themselves. Link the feedback as much as possible to business results and objectives – this will help increase ownership. Any change in behaviour will only occur through acceptance and ownership of then feedback by that person. Receiving Feedback As long as feedback is given in a non-judgmental and appropriate way, it is a valuable piece of information for learning and for our continued development as a person. Constructive feedback is critical for self-development and growth; here are some points to bare in mind when you receive feedback. 1.
Don’t shy away from constructive feedback, welcome it
Whether you are giving or receiving feedback it is useful to bare in mind the following model when it comes to people who receive feedback. D A W A DENIAL ANGER WITHDRAWAL
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